Take Charge of Your Life - II

Read the first part here....

Up to now, we have seen the secrets of the success.

Now we will look at a burglar who is planning for bank Robbery. Could he be successful in his wish? The answer is yes if he has the above three qualities. He will have the knowledge about how to do. He even might have the skills and surely the burning desire. So what is the different for burglar and us? Now what we have defined is success. It could be in anything.

That’s why people are not in good state when comparing with old times, though technology, knowledge, skills and desire has been better state than ever before, since Stealing, burglary, rape, kidnaps and killing have been increased too.

It is all in vision. What we dream should be correct one then only we would be able to achieve ‘Genuine Success’.

To lead ourselves in right path of ‘Genuine Success’, how can the competence be used. There comes the character. We should have good and firm character to earn genuine success. Actually even the personality is the exposure of your character. Character and Personality are as the upper and lower parts of Ice-berg formed in the middle of sea. From outside only smaller upper part (personality) can be seen, but the greater part of ice is under the sea.

To have a smaller part up there, lower part should be firm and bigger, same with the character and personality.

Who should take responsible to your success or achievements? It is not your family, not friends, not neighbours, but….. You. Others might have contributed, but still you should take the responsibility. We have seen lots of people complaining that their family is not supporting well or the country is not good or politicians are not responsible when they are not successful. It is not the reality. These are excuses of people who do not want try again or those who have given up. You should take charge of your life. For instance, let’s say you have a very important work to be finished and it is raining hard. Will you just sit down at home? No, you will take an umbrella and go. It is something like that. You can do nothing with Politicians or Country situations which even may not be changed, but still you should take charge of life and ride your way to ultimate task.

Finally it is important to remember what we had discussed. Have a Vision, improve your competence with good character and take charge of your life. Genuine Success is not far away from you.

[From the speech of Nalaka Hewamadduma]

Take Charge of Your Life - 1

Life without the vision is just like the journey without destination or purpose. Everyone wants to achieve success in whatever they do. Have you ever wondered what it all takes to make something success (or achievable).

Vision is important to achieve success. Then a question arises ‘Is that enough’ to achieve success? if it is enough then those who (have) had the vision should have achieved success. But that never the case. So, we know that there is something more behind achieving success. Then what that could be? That is what so called ‘Competence’. Actually what is competence? How we could define it for right understanding. To say technique wise, it consists of three terms. First is Knowledge that you gain in studies, in listening, in what you see and in all sorts of ways. Then how much the Knowledge that you have contributes to your success. Could you think a bit with your experiences and knowledge you have. 50%, 60%, 80% or 100%, to say the truth, it is just 10%. It can not be believed isn’t it? Even if you believe or not that is what the truth is.

If is it so, then you might wonder what makes the other 90%. You could have guessed correctly too. Yes it is skills that are needed to achieve success. Then how much it is going to contribute? It is only 25%. You could be annoyed hearing that even having the skills and knowledge would not acquire success, but that’s what the truth is. Actually final term which is included in Competence is going to decide 65% on way to success. It is none other than ‘Desire’ to deserve your vision. It is not just desire but burning desire. You would be surprised to read this, so as I. But yeah it’s true. It is simply shown through the following analogy.

Even the Knowledge & skills won't make 40% for your success.

Let’s say a student wants to win Gold medal in Swimming at Olympics (just like he is inspired by Michael Phelps), so he looked at the advertisements and goes to an institution where they taught excellently swimming. Let’s say he goes for each and every lecture and refers to books and web and can be able to passes the examination (theory) with Super Merit. After passing examination if he goes and jumps straight in to pool for swimming, he will just drown and die. It is what happens to your vision if you only have knowledge.

Let’s say he knows how to swim (skills & techniques) and tries to go for Olympics. He could not even be able to be selected in local team. That is why there are lots of people around who know swimming even they too want to participate in Olympics. Having only Skills leads to such a situation, because you must desire, so you practice (hard work driven by strong desire) and learn techniques (and knowledge) to achieve it. Let’s say he has only burning desire. So he goes straight and jumps into pool. Again he will just die. After all it is not only knowledge, not only skills, not only desire, all three are needed to achieve success.

(To be continued...)

[From the speech of Nalaka Hewamadduma]

What’s Make the Difference (Continued…)

This supposed to be the third post of this blog, but as new year came I posted New Year's resolution. Now I'll continue with 2nd post's continuation of What's make the Difference.

Really what’s made the difference? Some more effort. Actually the difference between ordinary and extra ordinary is only a little “EXTRA”. After you were determined you must try until you reach it without giving up in the half way.

Growing old involves no sacrifice or no special effort. While you grew older, your friend grew older even your enemy grew older. It’s just a mandatory natural process, Growing Up is optional, and that is what distinguishes one person from the other.

The true strength of man’s (even the woman’s) character comes to the front when he continues to hold his ground and use each stone hurled at him to build the walls of his own fortress

That is what Great personalities did. The habit of never giving up and making positive output of every hurdle they had made them great. Mahatma Gandhi built his own fortress, using problems he had, not to fight but to make the white empire to be ashamed. He never gave up his policy of “Ahimsa” or his determination even when he went through troubles ever one can think of. But that’s what revealed his massive power of Ahimsa and the power of his ‘ATHMA’ (spiritual power or power is his character).

When one is confronted by a wall, beating one’s head against it won’t help. But need to look for opening. It is again important to know whether we are in right path because all your hard work would be useless unless you work in the right direction. Effort in the wrong direction will make your target more and more far than ever before. So, first determine where to go, then choose the right path and work, work, work with never giving up.

[based on the speech of PID A.P. Singh]

What's make the difference?

Once, when Mahatma Gandhi was in South Africa, where he practised law as a barrister, (at that time he was not not recognized as Mahatma, he was just Mohanlal Karamchand Gandhi then) he was about travel in the train in the first class. At that moment train attendant came into train compartment (where Gandhi was in) to check the tickets. The attendant noticed Gandhi was there and asked him to leave. Gandhi did not move and showed his ticket that he bought. But the attendant got irritated and tore the ticket and told to Gandhi, "Blacks and the Dogs are not allowed in the first class”. Also he threw Gandhi out of the compartment to the platform. That does not make any difference in the station, since everyday or other blacks and Indians are treated like that, After all Mahatma Gandhi is not only man who had been thrown out of the train compartment in indecent manner due to colour discrimination.

This incident have happened many times before for many men, but none of those incidents made any difference. but this incident of Gandhi made a huge difference in the history of the world and Indian nation. How is it possible? What’s really made the difference? It’s the determination. How the Mahatma Gandhi would have felt when he was thrown out in the platform. There he determined that “you people threw me out today and I will throw entire British (white) Empire from my country”. That determination made huge difference in the world history.

Human mind something that is capable of achieving all that you dream, imagine or visualize with strong desire.

If that single man’s determination can make the difference and made him a Mahatma, why can not we? Everything is in us. Only thing we have to determine and work towards that until we reach it. Some people try, but when they met with a small failure or an obstacle or they could not reach their fruits at expected time they will just give it up. It actually like this, for instance water is heating up its in 99°C. when someone has put his hands in it, he quickly takes out his hands and might shout "what the hell to keep fingers in boiling water". But for a scientist it is not boiling water since water boils at 100°C under normal conditions, so it is not boiling. Just like that most of us try until 99°C and we give up. Those who give some more effort get 1°C more will achieve the victory.

How will look if he just give up from this height, just because he has not reached the top.

So, what’s make the difference? It’s all one degree more effort. That’s what makes difference between the win and loss. Just one degree more effort. So never never give up.

[based on the speech of PID A.P. Singh]

-planning to be continued-